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Heart of the Matter is at Home - Yours and Mine

Have we become the society that reacts only after something unfair happens and more so only when it is reported in the media? and so soon forget it as another breaking news is out. It could not be the only case after Nirbhaya's and will not be the last. (Though I wish this should be the last). It is only that it excited media at the time when all other news seemed to be not worthy enough to draw the TRP. Neither COVID nor the Drug scam.

It's always safe to blame it on govt and pretend like we are championing a cause. But the fact of the matter is every citizen of the country should be taking the responsibility if our women folk are feeling unsafe.

If at all you want to make the present govt responsible, why not hold the previous govt, during the time in which these criminals are born. Sounds stupid, doesn't it? Does it mean there were no abuses on women during the term of previous govt. I am sure that is not the case. Right now everyone is working to get political mileage out of the incident. This is very unfortunate. Do the dirty minds like that of the rapists look into the caste when they commit the crime? Another stupid angle in which the entire issue is debated.

Whether the woman is a dalit or otherwise she deserves to be respected. Though it is very natural that emotions run high post such events, one should always look at it objectively and deal with it one issue at a time. The law will take its course and I have full confidence in the judiciary. But will the death sentence suffice? Remember, the nation rested and waited till another Nirbhaya was reported. Laws can speak of consequences but not the 'how' questions. That should be derived from the rich civilisation and culture of the land which is the very basis of our lifestyle.

There is more to do for us as a society in the way that both girls and boys are groomed right from their childhood both at home and outside. Times have changed, nature of studying places, working places have undergone remarkable changes. Before we leave our children to their terms, parents in particular should teach the right sanskars which can only be demonstrated. The consequences for their actions should be modelled from home itself. Unfortunately, there are still homes where sisters, mothers, daughter in laws, mother in laws are subjected to age old submission. The men folk relish on it. The young generation which is at the transition take forward what they see at home and the poor legacy is carried forward. There are two extremes in such cases - there is freedom taken for granted or no freedom at all. There starts the problem which later manifests in the incidents like that of Nirbhaya and Manisha. There is no middle ground which I am pitching for. That is to exercise freedom while respecting that of the others and giving up bit of mine for the good of everyone. Kindly, think and reflect on this.

Education for children should mean inculcating the right set of life skills alongside so called academics. Schools should also be a hallmark of change but unfortunately they largely remain the same as they were during independence. We buy generously from the western philosophies the concept of freedom of thought and expression, secularism and so on and so forth. But they haven't served the purpose on the issues that really matter.

Kindly take note of the following quotes and reflect upon our society and atmosphere at your homes, schools, workplaces and neighborhood where each one of us can make a difference and I wish we stop the blame game and work on creating a society that we could feel proud of.

यत्र नार्यस्तु पूज्यन्ते रमन्ते तत्र देवताः ।
यत्रैतास्तु न पूज्यन्ते सर्वास्तत्राफलाः क्रियाः ।।

Meaning:

"Where women are worshiped, there lives the Gods. Wherever they are not worshiped, all actions result in failure."

"When there is righteousness in the heart, there is beauty in the character. When there is beauty in the character, there is harmony in the home. When there is harmony in the home, there is order in the nation. When there is order in the nation, there is peace in the world.”

Let us not wait for another breaking news that breaks our hearts and breaks us apart. Start your work at the place where you are and for that matter starting from the scratch matters.

SOLID IN THE SUPPORT OF OUR WOMEN FOLK..

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