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Win Hearts, Not Battles

 Almost every day, children are brought to the principal’s office.

“She didn’t do her homework.”
“He hasn’t brought his notebook.”
“He never listens in class.”

As a principal, I listen. I guide. But I also believe that the real power to shape a child lies with the teacher—the one who knows the child’s nature, strengths, and struggles on a daily basis.

Let’s be honest. Discipline is not something to be passed on.
The classroom is the teacher’s space to inspire, correct, and connect. The moment a child is sent out—or taken to the principal—it sends a message: “I can't handle this.” And the child knows it. So does the whole class.

Sometimes we give punishments just for the sake of it—stand outside, write lines, sit at the back. But when it becomes routine, children stop taking it seriously. It turns into a show, not a solution.


Instead, use natural and logical consequences. If a child hasn’t done their work, simply ask them to complete it. That’s the consequence. It’s not about making them suffer, but making them responsible.
Punishment should not be a shortcut—it should be meaningful.

Also, don’t fall into the trap of turning discipline into a power game. Children, especially teenagers, love to test limits. And if we treat every situation as a win-or-lose battle, we often lose. They enjoy pushing buttons, especially when the teacher reacts strongly. Screaming doesn't win you respect—it sets the wrong example.

Instead, respond with calm. A quiet, firm teacher is more powerful than a loud one. When you stay in control, you set a strong tone for the class.

Be a reflective teacher.
Ask:

  • Why is this child behaving like this?
  • What support does he need?
  • How can I connect better?

Not all misbehavior is mischief. Sometimes it’s confusion, boredom, or even a cry for attention.

And only after all efforts in the classroom have failed, bring the issue to the principal. Otherwise, you risk losing the trust of your class. If children say, “Even our teacher couldn’t handle him,” it hurts your image.

Remember: you are the leader in the classroom. Children must not fear you—they should respect and trust you. That comes from fairness, patience, and consistency.

Don’t aim to win arguments. Win their attention. Win their effort. Win their trust.

Because in the end, discipline is not about power—it’s about guiding children to take responsibility, helping them grow into thoughtful, accountable individuals.

Let’s not win battles.
Let’s win hearts—and shape character.


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